If you're reading this, chances are high that you've already spent some amount of time reading sex tips and tricks to use with your partner. Not to be corny, but: hi, you are your own best sex partner, which is why you landed here, on a list of ways to make your solo sex life the absolute best. Masturbation or masty time, if you will is a great way to unwind, treat yourself, learn more about your sexuality, and yes, improve your sex life , in general. It's maybe the most important sex you have no pressure. And yet, once you find a routine that works for you, it's far too easy to fall into a rut where each solo sesh is exactly the same.
In my 20s, I was oddly committed to seeking out my orgasms from other people a notoriously unreliable source. I understand having to work through shame and body issues before becoming completely comfortable with self-pleasure, but I really recommend doing whatever unblocking you need to start to pushing your own buttons ASAP. But you have to promise to control your inner Cersei; a person can get drunk off this much power. The first tip comes from sex researcher and neuroscientist Debra W. Soh , Ph. This definitely rings true for me.
We become so reliant on other people for sex that we forget the importance of learning how to have sex with yourself. No one else knows your body better than you. This is just a simple fact. So, why not spend some time and get to know it before someone else does?
I am not an adventurous masturbator. I should be, because I am always reading and writing about the best masturbation techniques , sex toys and ways to masturbate — but I rarely branch out myself. I'm definitely a regular masturbator and a firm believer in all of the benefits it brings. Learning how to make yourself orgasm is the most empowering experience you will ever have," Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and founder of Finishing School , tells Bustle.