If you are having pain during sex, first go get checked out by the doctor preferably a gynecologist. She can rule out infections of all types which can cause pain with sex. She will also see if your uterus is in a position that can make some sexual positions painful. It could also be due to vaginismus , which is when you have involuntary contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. Penetrative sex need not be painful.
Nothing wrong with that. Yes, you can do a fuckload of Kegels to increase these feels, but there are also positions that for whatever reason, turn that closeness up a notch. These are they:. Pull him in for a tighter fit by lying on your back, pressing your legs together and lifting your legs over your head. He kneels before you as he should and holds your feet to one side of your head, playing you like the fine instrument that you are. If you can't keep your legs straight, just bend your knees and enjoy. Have him lie on his back then bend his knees and spread his legs for you.
Sex should never be uncomfortable… except maybe in that hilariously awkward way. Even if position A worked for your previous partner, your new S. How their personal taste aligns with yours will determine comfortable or painful sex.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off-limits, and all questions remain anonymous. A: Thanks for the question! In general, what works best for men who are on the smaller side are positions that allow him to penetrate as deeply as possible.