You dread seeing them and you need to see them, all at once. I feel regularly as though I have nothing left to give him. With all of our combined wisdom, strength, love and unfailing will to make things better for him, there is nothing we can do. He will have an army of people behind him and beside him when he makes the decision, but until then, I and others who love him are powerless. I know that.
Dating someone who is recovering from addiction will require a high degree of sacrificial love, but what a committed, sober person can bring to a relationship is utterly invaluable. The act of recovering from addiction requires an exceptional level of self-awareness and acceptance. People in recovery can be highly spiritual and compassionate and less judgmental than a typical person. Through the chasm of addiction, they have led imperfect lives. In turn, they can be more understanding and accepting of your flaws. Someone who is firmly dedicated to their recovery can bring a magnitude of awareness, understanding, and compassion that makes them an excellent candidate for a relationship. There is also the reality of what it means to date someone in recovery.
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Pull them into your peace. I was finally in a solid place when I met my now-ex-boyfriend earlier this year. I had created some healthy habits for myself and was fully recovered from the eating disorder that had ruled my life for eight years prior. Things had turned around completely for me, as now I was getting my first novel published and had a flourishing greeting card line.