Both men and women worry about sexual performance, but guys are more concerned about 'doing it right', and girls are more worried about their bodies. There is pressure from friends, to be sexually active and knowledgeable, and to brag about sex, so men find it hard to admit if they don't know much about sex. Most men worry about their performance the first time they have sex , although most girls don't feel this pressure. Blokes go 'yeah, yeah like I lasted seven hours last night' do you know what I mean. He said a mate said to him 'oh I was going on for ages,' and everything and I said 'don't worry about it you can only do what you can do.
Back in high school and college, I remember my peers and I used to think curiously and nervously about what our first sexual experiences might be like. Or, if we'd had them, were they everything we'd hoped they would be? Could they have been better? Often we talked about the who quite a lot: Who did we want to be our first sexual partner? There was always the camp who loved the idea of having sex for the first time with someone they loved. Or they may have developed the relationship and then become interested in being sexual. Either way, women who describe their experience this way probably feel very good about how they chose to enter sex with another person.
Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. When I was a little girl from age 7 to 10 , my best friend from age 7 - 10 and I experimented sexually together. I never felt violated by it at the time, in fact I would consider it all to be consensual. But now, at age 21, I have come to realise my early sexual experiences and experimentations have left me traumatised.
TEENAGE girls commonly feel fear, shame and panic after their first sexual experience, a conference on adolescent sexual behaviour in Dublin was told yesterday. Dr Paula Mayock, senior researcher at Trinity College's Children's Research Centre, explained how sex is seen as establishing masculinity among young boys. Young women, however, were more detached in their response, and often had no sense of pleasure. Dr Mayock told the one-day conference, organised by the Research Centre, that evidence would suggest one third of year-olds were sexually active, but there was lack of detailed evidence to back this up.